Sunday, August 28, 2011

An ENFP revealed - A portrait of my personality.

Here's an interesting read that my friend recommended to me. Read through it if you want to understand my personality (or other ENFPs) personality better. Enjoy!

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As an ENFP, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you take things in primarily via your intuition. Your secondary mode is internal, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit in with your personal value system.
ENFPs are warm, enthusiastic people, typically very bright and full of potential. They live in the world of possibilities, and can become very passionate and excited about things. Their enthusiasm lends them the ability to inspire and motivate others, more so than we see in other types. They can talk their way in or out of anything. They love life, seeing it as a special gift, and strive to make the most out of it.

ENFPs have an unusually broad range of skills and talents. They are good at most things which interest them. Project-oriented, they may go through several different careers during their lifetime. To onlookers, the ENFP may seem directionless and without purpose, but ENFPs are actually quite consistent, in that they have a strong sense of values which they live with throughout their lives. Everything that they do must be in line with their values. An ENFP needs to feel that they are living their lives as their true Self, walking in step with what they believe is right. They see meaning in everything, and are on a continuous quest to adapt their lives and values to achieve inner peace. They're constantly aware and somewhat fearful of losing touch with themselves. Since emotional excitement is usually an important part of the ENFP's life, and because they are focused on keeping "centered", the ENFP is usually an intense individual, with highly evolved values.
Neil Strauss the author of the best selling book "The Game: Penetrating the Secret
Society of Pickup Artists" is also an ENFP!
An ENFP needs to focus on following through with their projects. This can be a problem area for some of these individuals. Unlike other Extraverted types, ENFPs need time alone to center themselves, and make sure they are moving in a direction which is in sync with their values. ENFPs who remain centered will usually be quite successful at their endeavors. Others may fall into the habit of dropping a project when they become excited about a new possibility, and thus they never achieve the great accomplishments which they are capable of achieving.

Most ENFPs have great people skills. They are genuinely warm and interested in people, and place great importance on their inter-personal relationships. ENFPs almost always have a strong need to be liked. Sometimes, especially at a younger age, an ENFP will tend to be "gushy" and insincere, and generally "overdo" in an effort to win acceptance. However, once an ENFP has learned to balance their need to be true to themselves with their need for acceptance, they excel at bringing out the best in others, and are typically well-liked. They have an exceptional ability to intuitively understand a person after a very short period of time, and use their intuition and flexibility to relate to others on their own level.

Because ENFPs live in the world of exciting possibilities, the details of everyday life are seen as trivial drudgery. They place no importance on detailed, maintenance-type tasks, and will frequently remain oblivous to these types of concerns. When they do have to perform these tasks, they do not enjoy themselves. This is a challenging area of life for most ENFPs, and can be frustrating for ENFP's family members.

Jerry Seinfeld and Bill Clinton are amongst other famous ENFPs!
An ENFP who has "gone wrong" may be quite manipulative - and very good it. The gift of gab which they are blessed with makes it naturally easy for them to get what they want. Most ENFPs will not abuse their abilities, because that would not jive with their value systems.

ENFPs sometimes make serious errors in judgment. They have an amazing ability to intuitively perceive the truth about a person or situation, but when they apply judgment to their perception, they may jump to the wrong conclusions.

ENFPs who have not learned to follow through may have a difficult time remaining happy in marital relationships. Always seeing the possibilities of what could be, they may become bored with what actually is. The strong sense of values will keep many ENFPs dedicated to their relationships. However, ENFPs like a little excitement in their lives, and are best matched with individuals who are comfortable with change and new experiences.

Having an ENFP parent can be a fun-filled experience, but may be stressful at times for children with strong Sensing or Judging tendancies. Such children may see the ENFP parent as inconsistent and difficult to understand, as the children are pulled along in the whirlwind life of the ENFP. Sometimes the ENFP will want to be their child's best friend, and at other times they will play the parental authoritarian. But ENFPs are always consistent in their value systems, which they will impress on their children above all else, along with a basic joy of living.
Anakin Skywalker and Jar Jar Binks, the ENFPs from Star Wars
ENFPs are basically happy people. They may become unhappy when they are confined to strict schedules or mundane tasks. Consequently, ENFPs work best in situations where they have a lot of flexibility, and where they can work with people and ideas. Many go into business for themselves. They have the ability to be quite productive with little supervision, as long as they are excited about what they're doing.

Because they are so alert and sensitive, constantly scanning their environments, ENFPs often suffer from muscle tension. They have a strong need to be independent, and resist being controlled or labelled. They need to maintain control over themselves, but they do not believe in controlling others. Their dislike of dependence and suppression extends to others as well as to themselves.

ENFPs are charming, ingenuous, risk-taking, sensitive, people-oriented individuals with capabilities ranging across a broad spectrum. They have many gifts which they will use to fulfill themselves and those near them, if they are able to remain centered and master the ability of following through.

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

What's your personality type?

I just did a personality test at and this is what came out.
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> You are an ENFP (Extravert, iNtuitive, Feeler, Perceiver)
ENFPs represent between 6 and 8% of the U.S. population
Curious, energetic, adaptable, and creative, ENFPs like considering unconventional approaches. They enjoy batting around ideas and finding creative solutions and are energized and intrigued by new possibilities and anything out of the ordinary. ENFPs tend to be talkative, enthusiastic, playful, and generally fun-loving people. Warm and caring, ENFPs have strong personal values upon which they base most decisions. Conversations with ENFPs can be very circular as they excitedly move from one topic to the next, making connections and associations.
Unconventional and occasionally irreverent, they pride themselves on their uniqueness and originality. Optimistic, and spontaneous, ENFPs have a strong sense of the possible. For them, life is an exciting drama. Because they are so interested in possibilities, ENFPs see significance in all things and prefer to keep lots of options open.

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If you're a sucker for psychology like me or just want to know more about yourself then just take 15 minutes off your day and answer four questions to know which of the 16 personality types are you! 
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Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Necessity vs Luxury

Here's a post that has been procrastinated for like a few months... damn procrastination sucks!! Anyway here we go. Does this situation sound familiar?

Person A (Gadget freak): I just got my new iPad! So cheap summo...
Person B (Traditional old fashionist) : necessary meh... I don understand why you waste your money on such things...
Person A: but it's the latest trend! how can you survive without it!! It can do everything... do your home work, work as a tv, play games, keep you organized, use as a brouchure, etc etc etc...
Person B : what for you need this? you have a computer, a tv, hands and legs, an phone already... you just waste too much money on unimportant things...

Hmm.. maybe that's not such a good example... but yeah, my point is everybody's opinion on things are different based on personalities, surroundings, hobbies and interests. In the 20th century, there is no more fixed system. Back then necessity used to be to have food on the table, a roof over our head, clothes to wear and everything else would be a luxury. NOW... times has changed! What may be a luxury to some has become a necessity to others!
Here are some really good examples of things that have become a necessity to some or most but may remain a luxury to others...

1. AIRCOND - I swear i don't think i'll be able to sleep in this Malaysian weather if not for air condititioning...
2. Cars
3. Microwaves
4. INTERNET - Honestly... how many of you think you can survive without the internet?
5. Computers
6. Astro
7. King sized beds
etc etc etc...

Well you get the point there. And caught up in the quick modernization of our "technological" era, some things which used to be necessity has now become obsolete or luxury. Do you remember dial-up internet? Jaring or tmNet? it used to be a luxury and evolved into a necessity for most and has now become obsolete. How bout antic automobiles? Morris Miners? Beatles? Vespa? It was once a necessary and became obsolete and now become a luxury to some collectors.

What i'm trying to get across here is, before you question someone about what their needs are or what is a luxury to them and such, we ourselves have to understand that every person is different in terms of their hobbies, personalities and surroundings. It may seem that your friend wants an iPad for the sake of getting one, but it may be a necessity for his job to enable him to explain to the clients easier or work on the move. Imagine telling Slash that he doesn't need a guitar? Or telling David Beckham that he doesn't need soccer boots... 

So don't narrow up your necessities and consider everything else a luxury... If you really have a hobby or interest in something, work hard for it, save up for it and make it your necessity and by making other things your luxury you can differentiate your priorities and are more likely at getting those things you've always wanted. We can't have everything in life, but we can have what we really want.
What are your necessities? 
Which are your luxuries...