Let's talk NICE GUYS!

Are you a nice guy?

Well I came across this interesting read in AskMen.com where they were talking about nice guys. It's pretty true... I know alot of nice guys myself and have also been in that "zone" until i came across "the game". Well frankly there's nothing wrong with being a nice guy, except the fact that you don't get laid, you end out living in your parents basement till you're 30 because everyone steps on you to climb up the social (and corporate) ladder, you have no "real" friends and don't have the guts to take risks and speak your mind in fear of hurting someone or loosing a friend. There's really nothing wrong with it... not to mention that some people can't imagine themselves being known as an ass or having a bad image. Seriously... there's nothing wrong with being in the "friend zone" of the girl you have loved your whole life, while she goes out with an ass that you know will screw her life up... Nope it's not wrong, and therefore you should just not continue reading this post if you're fine with that. 

*Good bye Mr. Nice Guy! It was nice to meet you *

Alright back to business. Frankly I have nothing wrong with nice guys, well other than the fact that their trying to be "nice" all the time. But seriously, I really believe in improving one's self. Everybody should be given an equal chance to fight for their rights and what they believe in. And I stand by one theory, that is, anybody is capable of anything and that any guy can get any girl he wants! (with the right guidance of course!) 

For the record, I'm not here to tell you to be and ass or a jerk or what not. I'm just encouraging you readers not to be a pushover and that there is more to you than there really is. Again like many of my previous posts, you are not the only "Nice Guy" out there and yes many girls DO like nice guys, it's just your job to get them to NOTICE YOU FIRST before they can like you.

Think about it! Here's the article from AskMen.

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For the longest time, we have had to keep our mouths shut. But now you’re in the company of men.

The "Nice Guy"

Historically, there is no greater kiss of death than being labeled a “nice guy.” Sure, it’s great when you’re 10, sporting your Sunday suit and your mom is calling you nice. However, when you’re a full-grown man trying to make his mark at work and get his way with the ladies, the last thing you ever want to be known as is the nice guy. But why, Dean? Why is being a nice guy so bad? More than likely, if you’re asking that question, it’s too late and you’re sweet and soft. But here they are, the key concepts of life that nice guys will never understand.

Your Back Was Made For Walking 

Gentlemen, here’s a little piece of information: Women are genetically inclined to walk all over men. (Ladies, if you don’t like that, remember, you are in the company of men.) Men, the onus is on us to defend ourselves. Most of what you think of as nice is really you being a pussy. Maybe it’s always calling her rather than putting it on her to call; maybe it’s letting her stand you up without any protest. The more you bend over backward for her, the more you’ll be expected to -- and with no reciprocation or appreciation. Realize that you can be a confident, desirable male without being a slave in waiting.

Women Want To Be Objectified 

Nice guys tend to be sensitive and emotional; sometimes women want to be strictly physical. She wants a man who is decisive enough to say he wants to have sex. If you wait for her to initiate this, you may as well take her home to your bad boy buddy. Be an asshole to her just to be an asshole? No. Be confident because you’re a man? Definitely. The reason women like the bad boy is because he is not afraid to say what he wants (which is her). She likes to know that she is  physically desired more than she likes to hear your sonnets and love poems insinuating that you care. 

You're Seen As A Pushover

It’s not just her, it's also her friends (and your friends) who see you as a pushover, and that growing opinion and impression is reinforcing her distaste for you. You’ll end up being her best friend and everyone’s doormat. Being the nice guy will leave you hearing about how another jackass broke her heart (after she gave him the best sex ever) and it will leave you in an entry position forever. Not to mention you’ll be the guy who’s always helping people move, listening to everyone’s problems and never having anyone reciprocate your efforts.    

Man Up

Your strategy is now your identity. You thought you were being nice, when in fact you were becoming the “nice guy.” Nice guys will never understand that standing up for yourself, objectifying women and ending your status as a pushover will be the key to success in the bedroom, the boardroom and life in general.
 
I’m Dean Cardell and I make no apologies.

http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_400/449_in-the-company-of-men-what-nice-guys-will-never-understand.html

The Wingman... possibly the most under rated role in society!

According to Wikipedia:-

A Wingman is a role that a person may take when a friend needs support with approaching potential partners. A wingman is someone who is on the "inside" and is used to help someone with relationships. There seem to be gender differences such that females' friends help them avoid undesirable potential partners, while males' friends help them attract desirable potential mates.

WARNING: This post is written under the influence of alcohol!

Alright, as simple as it can get, a wingman is someone who takes up a supportive role to support the "gamer" to close "the deal". 

Easy right?

HELL NO!!! Wikipedia gives a very vague description saying that a wingman is to assist approaching potential partners. In this case, any idiot or bum from the side of the road can do so. To me, a  REAL wingman's job is to create a boost in value to the "gamer" who is approaching the potential partner. In order to do this, the wingman has to have a certain value and selling points himself. Imagine all the butt kissers "helping" the gamer, "oh my gosh, you're from this band" or "hey your shirt is very nice" , yeah it may create some false temporary (did i mention un-impact-ful?) value, but it's nothing to stay. 

However, imagine a well dressed person, or someone of authority or position  approaching you and complimenting you or having a conversation? Doesn't that mean something more? 

A wingman's job isn't as easy as just approaching and complimenting. He has to do a little research about the potential "target", make jokes, remind the "gamer", push him back onto track, take control of the surroundings (example is creating atmosphere by working with the DJ or the bartenders in the club), and everything possible to ensure that that deal is closed. He has to know when to come in and when to leave, the right words to say, not to appear cocky and arrogant, and not to draw too much attention to himself. In reality, a good wingman does 80% of the work while the gamer does 20% which is focused on the target and himself. This will work especially well if the wingman is someone of value, like the resident DJ or a sports celebrity.

Ideally, a wingman is often someone of high confidence, above average looks, dresses well and well aware of how the "game" works. This creates the impression that the people you hang with are of a certain standard and the target will WANT to be in the crowd, hence she WORKS harder to impress the "gamer".

A wingman should always understand the "actual" value of the gamer. He is in control of creating the intended "value" for the gamer. Be it a "false" or "real" value, it stands in the hands of the wingman, as girls often analyse a person by way he reacts to his crowd or surroundings. If a wingman creates a value that is way above the actual value of the gamer, the "relationship" won't last. On the other hand, if the value is too low, the gamer will likely not even score. 

Not as easy as it seems eh? 

The support role in anything in life has always been under rated. How often has the back end staff of an IT company been published in a magazine or newspaper? How many coaches are recognized for the performance of the team? When do song writers or audio engineers become more famous than the artists?

Yes it is a tough job and everybody wants to stand in the lime light. But somebody has to do it! It's actually alot more fun and gives you alot more perspective towards the "game"! Everyone has a role to play, plan yours out now. Not everyone has to be the star!

Added:

1. A good wingman knows his role and will NEVER cock block the gamer.

2. Analyzes the situation and ensures that the gamer doesn't do anything that may turn the target off.

3. Takes control and steps in when appropriate.

4. Does his homework and advices the gamer accordingly.

5. Will never be in reach of the target and must never outshine the gamer.

Alpha Male vs Complete Asshole

I was thinking over lunch of what I read from Clement's blog, and it occurred to me on the matter of the AMOG. In every group, there will be 3 types of people:-

1. The Natural Leaders - These are the people who naturally walk in front and everybody likes, the others in the group will naturally follow what he say and will be Mr. Popular. This is usually the Alpha Male of the group.

2. The 2nd in Command - Every leader needs his assistance, this guy takes the role of leader when The Natural Leader is not around. He is also probably the only person whom will stand up to what The Natural Leader says or whom the Natural Leader will consider listening to and have a "deep conversation" with. However the downside of this position is you'll have many haters cause everybody want's to be "closer" to the leader in the group, hence most those in this category are usually singled out by the people in the group.

3. The Other - These are the YES MEN whom suck up the the Natural Leader and who cant or dare not do anything on their own.

But I'm not here to judge anyone... today I'm talking about the Alpha Male.

WELL..... There is a very fine line between an...

ALPHA MALE and being A COMPLETE ASSHOLE!!!!!

I've came across my fair share of people around, with different personalities and from different backgrounds.

Here's an article on "Alpha Male Characteristics" taken from Hub Pages

*take note on the parts highlighted in GREEN as i will be discussing about it later on in this post*

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Alpha Male Characteristics: Knowing About the Way Alpha Male Acts
Becoming an alpha male is not something that you can do overnight. You have to remember that it is essential that you need to get rid of the beta male characteristics in order for you to become ready to be an alpha male. You have to remember that there are certain traits or characteristics that differentiate the alpha male from the beta male. If you want to be like the alpha male, you have to start acting like one and you will see that your dating life will significantly improve.

The first thing that you need to avoid is to leer at the attractive women in the bar. Pretty girls know they are attractive and that they can turn men's heads when she walks by. She loves this kind of attention. Now, don't be like the beta male who will leer at that pretty girl. Try ignoring her or try to not be interested in her and it will leave her wondering why and will pay more attention to you.

Beta male try to dominate but the alpha male knows they are the best. Never be bossy around people. Instead, try to be confident and be relaxed.

If you are dating, try to keep the conversation flowing with the topic that you like to talk about. You have to remember that the alpha male will never follow a person's agenda. If you get bored, then talk about the things that interest you.

Another factor that you need to avoid is by proving that you are better than others. This is a common beta male trait and they often start a fight whether verbal or physical just to prove to women that they are better than others. Alpha males know that they are smarter and better than others and they don't need to prove it. They feel secure enough that they don't have to try and please other people instantly.

You have to consider that not all successful males today are that smart. They just know how to act like one and this is one of the many alpha male traits. Always remember that you should never try and impress other people by doing things that are way out of your league.

Instead, try to always be confident and relaxed. By being like this, you will see that you will attract more women as you will be like a very powerful male even without trying.

As you can see, being the alpha male doesn't mean that you need to impress someone and prove yourself. Instead, being the alpha male means that you should be confident and secure enough that you will never have to prove that you are better than anyone else. You know that you are better and you should never be bossy.

So, if you want to become the alpha male, always remember that the first step is by getting rid of the beta male traits and characteristics and you can begin learning the ways of the alpha male.

These are just some of the tips that you need to remember about becoming the alpha male. You have to remember that confidence is the key. Always be relaxed in any situations and simple lead a laid back life and you can be sure that women will be attracted to you.
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Hope you guys had a good read and enjoyed it! Now, here are 5 common mistakes the differentiates an Alpha Male from a Complete Asshole!!

1. Get rid of beta male characteristics
Yes it is correct that you get rid of your beta male characteristics, but please, I repeat PLEASE do not forget who you are. It is important to stay at the top of your game at all times but do not forget your routes and backstab everyone else who brought you there.

2. Start acting like one
I always agree with the saying "fake it till you make it" but most people try too hard as what they see in MTV video's or what. Acting like one means playing the part, do it naturally and dont try anything that you do not feel comfortable with or who is just not you.

3. Beta males try to dominate but Alpha males know they are the best
4. Avoid proving that you're better than others - Alpha Males know that they are smarter and better and they don't need to prove it
This is a very common thing you can see "Alpha Male" wannabes failing to do. Most of these people always try to show off how their better than others and criticize others weaknesses to make themselves look good. As an Alpha Male, you should know that you are the best and act the role, not compete against the Beta males and look like a fool. Like the Simpsons movie said, "take a 100 strong men and a 100 weak men to make the strong men look stronger".

5. Knowing how to act like one - should never try to impress others by doing things that are out of their league
As mentioned above we have to start acting the role, but we also have to KNOW how to act the role or we may end out looking like idiots. I'm sure you have came across some showy people who always say "I can do this" "I can do that" "that person lousy la, I can do better" but once you ask them to do it, they just cant... So it's better to be honest to yourself and avoid the humiliation. * It's okay to tell the jokes, but avoid BEING the joke *

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Well anyway I'm not here to judge anyone but to share my point of view on the matter, it's just that I have some people around me that try too hard at being an Alpha Male that have lost sight of reality. It's really sad that I can sometimes see people laughing at them behind their back especially when these people are close to me. But we all fall into some of these categories once in awhile as well, so do not be afraid to remind your BRO when you feel things are getting out of hand, and do take time to reflect on yourself once in awhile!

Cheers!

Taken from GapNap.com

I was reading through a friends blog and I found an interesting category, "Seduction", therefore being the curious guy I am on this matters, I found this post... I was like WHOA!! This was something I was planning to write about but gosh... I couldn't have written it better than this guy! TRULLY EXPERIENCED BROTHER :) Anyway this was taken from GapNap's blog

Here's the link:-

http://gapnap.com/2009/12/22/amog/

AMOG

What is AMOG ?
The seduction community teaches AMOG .AMOG stands for Alpha Male Of Group or Alpha Male Other Guy . 
In other words , whenever you’re with a hot chick , or trying to get a hot chick ..
There will be OPPOSITIONS , the other guy will always COCKBLOCK you , humiliate you , discourage you , put you down , and insult you so that you WILL FAIL .


Cockblock stands for a guy who try to disrupt your game accidentally or on purpose
So you need a set of “tactics” to AMOG.

Which is also saying..
In life , no matter what you’re doing ..there will be oppositions , people who will give you “a run for your money” , there will be competition , there will be haters ..you can never please the whole world . Their objective is to slow you down , or get you out of their way , Or “pawn you” for their own personal self satisfaction and gain..
The basic methods of AMOG are :
1.Ignore the other guy
2.FIGHT , and humiliate the other guy  ..
The rule is , DO NOT LOSE . Always win . Right ?
and if all else fail , you say ..NEXT and switch to another chick (loser way)
Same with guitar , if you’re a teacher , there will be haters who will say “your teaching sucks , my teaching is better”
Or , if you are a guitarist , there will be haters who will say say “his cannot play lah , i can play better”
You can ignore them , or challenge them.

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Few years ago , a great teacher taught me of a concept which is  ..

“short term gain , long term loss , short term loss , long term gain “

And i have been using his concept in almost every expect of my life. Basically , its a simple concept ..
It is OK to lose , because you will learn
It is OK to fail , because you will learn
The world hates losers , and the world LOVES winners . But the world doesn’t know , the winners today were once losers . Find me a successful man who has never fail .
Like a dirty politician , gaining power for the first few years. When the truth surface , he fall .
Like Thomas Edison , when he was young , kids were teasing him , saying he was CRAZY and he was a loser  , a failure . But he learned . Today , you don’t call Thomas Edison a loser , but one of the greatest scientists of all time.

A Simple Story .

A young couple . A Hot chick and A Well to do guy .
Hot Chick reads COSMO and THE RULES . She plays the game of love by “the one who loves the least controls the relationship” (familiar?) . She makes her bf wait , randomly throw a tantrum , super demanding , purposely play “i don’t need you” , date other guys to make him jealous ..Hot chick thinks she is in TOTAL CONTROL of the relationship . She was winning .
The Well to do guy , knew that she was messing around with him .But he was okay with it , because that is what all women do . He knows , ultimately, he is the PRIZE . He is the better catch . He is CAPABLE . He HAS A GREAT INNER GAME .Hot Chick can control the relationship as long as she likes , he just enjoy the journey . He just focus on improving himself such as his career , his health and his lifestyle . He Gave the girl what she wants and meet her demands ..He was a loser?
Other guys see The Well to do guy and calls him  “pussy whipped ” or “pussy slave”..they said “how can you let your gf be in control ? you are a MAN bro ..be a MAN and be in CONTROL of your relationship”. Well to do guy didn’t care . Well to do guy was the loser in everybody’s eyes .
So , hot chick got bored with her well to do guy , because he was always the YES MAN . She finds another guy and dump his ass . Well to do guy was sad for a few days but he didn’t take it too hard .
After a month , hot chick finds out her new bf is a jerk who just wanna take everything and give nothing in return .(both sides have to give and take , if not , the relationship will fail ) .She went back to Well to do guy , she said to him ..
“I can never find another guy like you . I regret i didn’t appreciate you..you are the ONLY guy who CARES for me and treated me WELL..” But at that time , well to do guy was with his new gf , hotter and better than her .

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The point is , alot of things in this world are external game. (short term gain) .
As long as you KNOW that your INNER GAME is TIGHT and Improving , it is always a long term gain .
Guitarist , there will be people who will say , YOU SUCK or YOU DO NOT DESERVE THAT PAY or THAT MONEY .
Don’t worry about AMOG , Don’t worry about the Competition , Don’t worry about people who insult you , Don’t worry about the dogs that bark . Just work on yourINNER GAME and IMPROVE . Practice hard , be skillful , always improve , maintain your standards and never look back .
If they criticize you and they are better than you . It is OK to lose .It is OK to make mistakes. Don’t take it too hard . Instead , be positive , learn from them, promise yourself you will never make that mistake again . Make them your hero . Then , make sure your hero FAILS you 
Because , when shit happen , or when the truth surface . You know you will be alright . You know who is the loser . You know that it is your TIME TO RISE .
From today onwards , whenever people insult you and step on you …quietly whisper to them.
“I understand , you see a BIG PICTURE . But , one thing you don’t know about me is , I SEE A COMPLETE PICTURE “
Don’t worry about losing the battle. The war is not over . yet .