The new beginning of an old journey...

As most of you (or at least my friends) have known, I have always had a passion for music and sound systems, and over the many many years since I was a young boy, I have managed to learn several different instruments. I began dj-ing and live sound long before picking up any other instruments and it has always been a bitter sweet memory for me about my dj-ing life almost 5 years ago, where I've met alot of good people who supported and pushed me to improve myself as well as some whom later revealed their not so nice side of them. Since my hiatus from the art of mixing, I have than pursued to further my knowledge in other instruments such as guitar, drums and the bass. 

After going a long circle, I've finally returned to the dance music scene. Much has changed since than, as the usage of vinyls are close to extinction and CDs have become optional when playing in a club. Now mixing has become much more convenient as mixers have tons of built in effects and CDJs (or DVJs) can now play videos! We can even integrate our computer software to our mixers and turntables which leads to the  unnecessariness of burning those hundreds of CDs and carrying those heavy CD bags to gigs.

Lots of things has changed, but it's only got me steaming for more! In my pursuit to further my musical knowledge, I will continue to press on to further improve myself both as a musician and a performer!

Do show your support for my music at www.facebook.com/djtaka.my

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DJ taKa a.k.a. takalimc

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Dj taKa (a.k.a. takalimc) is a house and commercial dance music DJ from Malaysia. Based in Petaling Jaya, this aspiring DJ enjoys playing upbeat vocal tracks which relates to listeners and often gets the dance floor started. Being a Party Rocker himself, he is no stranger to the party scene and can often be found at the most happening clubs and events around the city center.

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Dj taKa Short Mix (House/Commercial) by Dj Taka on Mixcloud

In October 2011, after a 5 year absence from the Dj-ing scene, Dj taKa with his refound passion for dance music has returned with a whole new sound. Spinning a mixture of commercial and house music, Dj taKa has matured a lot as a performer and musician.

Branching out into party planning and event organizing, he also works hard to organize some of the hottest small scaled private parties in town!

Dj taKa strives to build his name in the industry and gain reputation by playing music that listeners can enjoy and dance to.
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Background:

With a strong passion for sound and music, Damien (a.k.a Dj taKa) began his journey in the art of mixing at the young age of 16. Being mentored under the guidance of Syko-G –a.k.a Malaysia’s “Godfather of Electronica”- he developed a strong interest in dance music, playing trance as his main genre to cater to the growing trend of shuffle dancing at that time. Building his reputation amongst the local shufflers, with hard bass lines and melodic break downs, his aim has always been to get party goers on the dance floor.

In 2006, Dj taKa took a hiatus from Dj-ing to pursue his interest in other instruments and music composition.

Guess you just cant put me in a box!

Being a somewhat "psychology" junkie! I do enjoy understanding people and the consequences of actions and reactions. Today I did another two personality tests from two different sites (SimilarMinds.com and Goddessflight), which both came out with different results on my personality! The first was bearable as the results showed me to be an ENTP (The Inventor), the other showed me a whole opposite of what I would have expected myself to be ISTP. These two are very different results and explanation from the initial ENFP which I was so proud of, ironically, when you read the explanation of these personality types, they do SOMEWHAT reflect on the type of person that you are. To conclude, I guess people's personality really does vary to the mood their in and the situations that their going through as well as the environment that surrounds them. People act differently in different situations, we can see this by the structure of the questions asked in these different personality quizzes. So don't limit yourself to just one personality type, just be proud of who you are and be yourself! 

For the fun of it, I'm gonna list down the details on ENTP and ISTP below! Enjoy!

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ENTP - "Inventor". Enthusiastic interest in everything and always sensitive to possibilities. Non-conformist and innovative. 3.2% of the total population.

Inventors begin building gadgets and mechanisms as young children, and never really stop, though as adults they will turn their inventiveness to many kinds of organizations, social as well as mechanical. There aren't many Inventors, say about two percent of the population, but they have great impact on our everyday lives. With their innovative, entrepreneurial spirit, Inventors are always on the lookout for a better way, always eyeing new projects, new enterprises, new processes. Always aiming to "build a better mousetrap."

Inventors are keenly pragmatic, and often become expert at devising the most effective means to accomplish their ends. They are the most reluctant of all the types to do things in a particular manner just because that's the way they have been done. As a result, they often bring fresh, new approaches to their work and play. They are intensely curious and continuously probe for possibilities, especially when trying to solve complex problems. Inventors are filled with ideas, but value ideas only when they make possible actions and objects. Thus they see product design not as an end in itself, but as a means to an end, as a way of devising the prototype that works and that can be brought to market. Inventors are confident in their pragmatism, counting on their ability to find effective ways and means when they need them, rather than making a detailed blueprint in advance. A rough idea is all they need to feel ready to proceed into action.

Inventors often have a lively circle of friends and are interested in their ideas and activities. They are usually easy-going, seldom critical or carping. Inventors can be engaging conversationalists, able to express their own complicated ideas and to follow the ideas of others. When arguing issues, however, they may deliberately employ debate skills to the serious disadvantage of their opponents.

Inventors are usually non-conformists in the workplace, and can succeed in many areas as long as the job does not involve too much humdrum routine. They make good leaders on pilot projects that test their ingenuity. And they are skilled at engineering human relationships and human systems, quickly grasping the politics of institutions and always wanting to understand the people within the system rather than tell them what to do. No matter what their occupation, however, Inventors display an extraordinary talent for rising to the demands of even the most impossible situations. "It can't be done" is a challenge to an Inventor and elicits a reaction of "I can do it."

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ISTP - Introvert/Sensing/Thinking/Perceiving

Naturally reserved and thriving on adventure and challenge, you much prefer action to conversation. You also have a penchant for observing what is going on around you. You enjoy activities that require hands on skills. Resourceful and independent, your motivations come from within you. You are a collector of information, rational, realistic and pragmatic. People often have a difficult time figuring you out, and you will remain a mystery to many. 

In relationships you are not one to have deep talks, but would rather let your actions speak for you. You display your love and care for others by doing practical things for them. You are not one to take on too many commitments or obligations--if any. You need your time alone and even though you are probably very loyal, this may cause conflict at times. You are not one to start fights, but you wont back away from one either. 

We DO kind of have a similar smile don't we!

Famous People of Your Type:

Charles Bronson, Tom Cruise, James Dean, Clint Eastwood, Zachary Taylor, Burt Reynolds, Keith Richards, Charlie Yeager, Frank Zappa. 

Optimistic Thinking vs Positive Thinking

I'd like to believe that I'm an optimistic person. Often when asked to describe myself, I would proudly list optimism as one of my traits. In an interesting early morning conversation with a distant friend, we came across the topic on the differences between optimistic thinking and positive thinking. She was debating that the two are the same, and I on the other hand believed (or would like to believe) that there were differences between the two.

Hence, I sought the help of my good friend Google, and made a search. An interesting read from CoachKip  described the difference between positive thinking and optimistic in simple terms.

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Positive Thinking

With positive thinking people say only good things.  They always look to find the positive meaning in something.  They go out convincing themselves that if they think positively then good things will happen.  Thinking positively usually has people saying it out loud “the economy is down but there is only one way for it to go.”  Positive thinkers often times come on too strong and it puts people off, and pushes them away.

Optimistic Thinkers

With optimistic thinking people they only feel good things.  Everything always has a good side to the optimistic thinker.  No one can ever convince an optimistic thinker that something is negative once the optimistic thinker has made up their mind.  Optimistic thinkers tend to keep their thoughts to themselves, there is no need for them to tell anyone that they are optimistic, people just know.  People tend to follow optimistic thinkers, and optimistic thinkers tend to attract more people to them.

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At the end of the day, I stood firmly on my believes that there really was a difference between the two and that I am indeed an optimistic person!

HAVE A GOOD DAY EVERYONE!!

The World Heavyweight Championships: The ID, Ego and Super Ego

There's a warfare going on inside my head. A battle between my principles and my feelings. My ego and my desires are contradicting. Who shall come out the champion? My ID or my Super Ego? Time will tell...

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THE ID, EGO & SUPEREGO

OUR PERSONALITY IS MADE OF UP OF THREE MAIN INTERACTING SYSTEMS:

ID:  

THIS IS PRESENT AT BIRTH.  THE ID OPERATES ACCORDING TO THE PLEASURE PRINCIPLE I.E. IT SEEKS PLEASURE AND AVOIDS PAIN.  IT IS OUR INSTINCT.  IF WE WANT TO DO A PARTICULAR THING WE WILL DO IT.  FOR EXAMPLE, IF WE ARE IN A LESSON AND WE WANT TO GO TO SLEEP, WE GO TO SLEEP.

EGO: 

THE EGO HAS TO DECIDE BETWEEN THE DEMANDS  OF THE ID AND THE SUPEREGO.  IT OPERATES ACCORDING TO THE REALITY PRINCIPLE.   IT CONTROLS THE ID'S DRIVE FOR IMMEDIATE SATISFACTION UNTIL AN APPROPRIATE OUTLET CAN BE FOUND.  SO, FROM THE EXAMPLE OF THE ID,  ABOVE, THE EGO WOULD SAY THERE IS NO BED HERE BUT I COULD LAY ON THE TABLE. 

SUPEREGO: 

THE SUPEREGO DEVELOPS FROM THE OEDIPUS COMPLEX. THIS IS THE MORAL PART OF THE PERSONALITY; A PRODUCT OF SOCIALISATION.  THE SUPER EGO IS DIVIDED INTO TWO PARTS; THE EGO-IDEAL AND THE CONSCIENCE.  THE EGO-IDEAL IS THE STANDARDS OF GOOD BEHAVIOUR THAT WE ASPIRE TO.  THE CONSCIENCE IS SEEN AS AN "INNER VOICE" THAT TELLS US WHEN WE HAVE DONE SOMETHING WRONG.  DEPENDING ON WHETHER THE EGO-IDEAL OR CONSCIENCE IS ACTIVATED, THE SUPEREGO IS SEEN AS THE SOURCE OF REWARDS I.E. FEELINGS OF PRIDE AND SATISFACTION AND OF PUNISHMENTS I.E. FEELINGS OF SHAME OR GUILT, RESPECTIVELY.  SO AGAIN, CONTINUING WITH THE SAME EXAMPLE, YOUR SUPEREGO WOULD SAY THAT YOU CANNOT POSSIBLY GO TO SLEEP IN A MIDDLE OF A LESSON.

THE DEMANDS OF THE ID ('I WANT IT, I WANT IT NOW') AND THE DEMANDS OF THE SUPEREGO ('NO IT'S WRONG') FREQUENTLY CONFLICT.  THE EGO DEALS WITH THIS CONFLICT BY OPERATING UNCONSCIOUS DEFENCE MECHANISMS.

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An ENFP revealed - A portrait of my personality.

Here's an interesting read that my friend recommended to me. Read through it if you want to understand my personality (or other ENFPs) personality better. Enjoy!

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As an ENFP, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you take things in primarily via your intuition. Your secondary mode is internal, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit in with your personal value system.

ENFPs are warm, enthusiastic people, typically very bright and full of potential. They live in the world of possibilities, and can become very passionate and excited about things. Their enthusiasm lends them the ability to inspire and motivate others, more so than we see in other types. They can talk their way in or out of anything. They love life, seeing it as a special gift, and strive to make the most out of it.

ENFPs have an unusually broad range of skills and talents. They are good at most things which interest them. Project-oriented, they may go through several different careers during their lifetime. To onlookers, the ENFP may seem directionless and without purpose, but ENFPs are actually quite consistent, in that they have a strong sense of values which they live with throughout their lives. Everything that they do must be in line with their values. An ENFP needs to feel that they are living their lives as their true Self, walking in step with what they believe is right. They see meaning in everything, and are on a continuous quest to adapt their lives and values to achieve inner peace. They're constantly aware and somewhat fearful of losing touch with themselves. Since emotional excitement is usually an important part of the ENFP's life, and because they are focused on keeping "centered", the ENFP is usually an intense individual, with highly evolved values.

Neil Strauss the author of the best selling book "The Game: Penetrating the Secret
Society of Pickup Artists" is also an ENFP!

An ENFP needs to focus on following through with their projects. This can be a problem area for some of these individuals. Unlike other Extraverted types, ENFPs need time alone to center themselves, and make sure they are moving in a direction which is in sync with their values. ENFPs who remain centered will usually be quite successful at their endeavors. Others may fall into the habit of dropping a project when they become excited about a new possibility, and thus they never achieve the great accomplishments which they are capable of achieving.

Most ENFPs have great people skills. They are genuinely warm and interested in people, and place great importance on their inter-personal relationships. ENFPs almost always have a strong need to be liked. Sometimes, especially at a younger age, an ENFP will tend to be "gushy" and insincere, and generally "overdo" in an effort to win acceptance. However, once an ENFP has learned to balance their need to be true to themselves with their need for acceptance, they excel at bringing out the best in others, and are typically well-liked. They have an exceptional ability to intuitively understand a person after a very short period of time, and use their intuition and flexibility to relate to others on their own level.

Because ENFPs live in the world of exciting possibilities, the details of everyday life are seen as trivial drudgery. They place no importance on detailed, maintenance-type tasks, and will frequently remain oblivous to these types of concerns. When they do have to perform these tasks, they do not enjoy themselves. This is a challenging area of life for most ENFPs, and can be frustrating for ENFP's family members.

Jerry Seinfeld and Bill Clinton are amongst other famous ENFPs!

An ENFP who has "gone wrong" may be quite manipulative - and very good it. The gift of gab which they are blessed with makes it naturally easy for them to get what they want. Most ENFPs will not abuse their abilities, because that would not jive with their value systems.

ENFPs sometimes make serious errors in judgment. They have an amazing ability to intuitively perceive the truth about a person or situation, but when they apply judgment to their perception, they may jump to the wrong conclusions.

ENFPs who have not learned to follow through may have a difficult time remaining happy in marital relationships. Always seeing the possibilities of what could be, they may become bored with what actually is. The strong sense of values will keep many ENFPs dedicated to their relationships. However, ENFPs like a little excitement in their lives, and are best matched with individuals who are comfortable with change and new experiences.

Having an ENFP parent can be a fun-filled experience, but may be stressful at times for children with strong Sensing or Judging tendancies. Such children may see the ENFP parent as inconsistent and difficult to understand, as the children are pulled along in the whirlwind life of the ENFP. Sometimes the ENFP will want to be their child's best friend, and at other times they will play the parental authoritarian. But ENFPs are always consistent in their value systems, which they will impress on their children above all else, along with a basic joy of living.

Anakin Skywalker and Jar Jar Binks, the ENFPs from Star Wars

ENFPs are basically happy people. They may become unhappy when they are confined to strict schedules or mundane tasks. Consequently, ENFPs work best in situations where they have a lot of flexibility, and where they can work with people and ideas. Many go into business for themselves. They have the ability to be quite productive with little supervision, as long as they are excited about what they're doing.

Because they are so alert and sensitive, constantly scanning their environments, ENFPs often suffer from muscle tension. They have a strong need to be independent, and resist being controlled or labelled. They need to maintain control over themselves, but they do not believe in controlling others. Their dislike of dependence and suppression extends to others as well as to themselves.

ENFPs are charming, ingenuous, risk-taking, sensitive, people-oriented individuals with capabilities ranging across a broad spectrum. They have many gifts which they will use to fulfill themselves and those near them, if they are able to remain centered and master the ability of following through.

http://www.personalitypage.com/html/ENFP.html

What's your personality type?

I just did a personality test at PersonalityType.com and this is what came out.

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> You are an ENFP (Extravert, iNtuitive, Feeler, Perceiver)

ENFPs represent between 6 and 8% of the U.S. population

Curious, energetic, adaptable, and creative, ENFPs like considering unconventional approaches. They enjoy batting around ideas and finding creative solutions and are energized and intrigued by new possibilities and anything out of the ordinary. ENFPs tend to be talkative, enthusiastic, playful, and generally fun-loving people. Warm and caring, ENFPs have strong personal values upon which they base most decisions. Conversations with ENFPs can be very circular as they excitedly move from one topic to the next, making connections and associations.

Unconventional and occasionally irreverent, they pride themselves on their uniqueness and originality. Optimistic, and spontaneous, ENFPs have a strong sense of the possible. For them, life is an exciting drama. Because they are so interested in possibilities, ENFPs see significance in all things and prefer to keep lots of options open.

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If you're a sucker for psychology like me or just want to know more about yourself then just take 15 minutes off your day and answer four questions to know which of the 16 personality types are you! 

Just visit www.personalitytype.com

Necessity vs Luxury

Here's a post that has been procrastinated for like a few months... damn procrastination sucks!! Anyway here we go. Does this situation sound familiar?

Person A (Gadget freak): I just got my new iPad! So cheap summo...

Person B (Traditional old fashionist) : necessary meh... I don understand why you waste your money on such things...

Person A: but it's the latest trend! how can you survive without it!! It can do everything... do your home work, work as a tv, play games, keep you organized, use as a brouchure, etc etc etc...

Person B : what for you need this? you have a computer, a tv, hands and legs, an phone already... you just waste too much money on unimportant things...

Hmm.. maybe that's not such a good example... but yeah, my point is everybody's opinion on things are different based on personalities, surroundings, hobbies and interests. In the 20th century, there is no more fixed system. Back then necessity used to be to have food on the table, a roof over our head, clothes to wear and everything else would be a luxury. NOW... times has changed! What may be a luxury to some has become a necessity to others!

Here are some really good examples of things that have become a necessity to some or most but may remain a luxury to others...

1. AIRCOND - I swear i don't think i'll be able to sleep in this Malaysian weather if not for air condititioning...

2. Cars

3. Microwaves

4. INTERNET - Honestly... how many of you think you can survive without the internet?

5. Computers

6. Astro

7. King sized beds

etc etc etc...

Well you get the point there. And caught up in the quick modernization of our "technological" era, some things which used to be necessity has now become obsolete or luxury. Do you remember dial-up internet? Jaring or tmNet? it used to be a luxury and evolved into a necessity for most and has now become obsolete. How bout antic automobiles? Morris Miners? Beatles? Vespa? It was once a necessary and became obsolete and now become a luxury to some collectors.

What i'm trying to get across here is, before you question someone about what their needs are or what is a luxury to them and such, we ourselves have to understand that every person is different in terms of their hobbies, personalities and surroundings. It may seem that your friend wants an iPad for the sake of getting one, but it may be a necessity for his job to enable him to explain to the clients easier or work on the move. Imagine telling Slash that he doesn't need a guitar? Or telling David Beckham that he doesn't need soccer boots... 

So don't narrow up your necessities and consider everything else a luxury... If you really have a hobby or interest in something, work hard for it, save up for it and make it your necessity and by making other things your luxury you can differentiate your priorities and are more likely at getting those things you've always wanted. We can't have everything in life, but we can have what we really want.

What are your necessities? 

Which are your luxuries...

What could 4000 dollars do for you?

Here's a thought... Have you been spending your money wisely? If you had a lump sum of cash, what would you do? When was the last time you made an investment that really paid off? And in how long did it take to mature?

Have you ever heard of the term 

“Let your money work for you”?

Financialrich.com says, “If you desire to become rich, you must let your money to work for you. We can’t become rich by working hard and saving hard. We only can become rich by investing, that is letting your money to work for you. You can always ask the rich how to become wealthy. The rich save and invest not save and spend.”

Hmm sounds pretty much like an entrepreneur!! Let’s name some famous entrepreneurs here...

Oprah Winfrey, a television host, actress, producer, and philanthropist, best known for her self-titled, multi-award winning talk show, which has become the highest-rated program of its kind in history.

Walt Disney, a film producer, director, screenwriter, voice actor,animator, entrepreneur, entertainer, international icon, philanthropist, and founder of the Walt Disney Company.

Steve Jobs an American business magnate and inventor. He is the co-founder and chief executive officer of Apple Inc. Here's an epic picture of Steve Jobs with his 1984 Macintosh.

Clement Cheng or better known as GapNap to some, a Malaysian entrepreneur who started off selling guitars and music equipment in his blog site (www.gapnap.com) and has formed one of the most well known music shops in Malaysia, Music Master.

What did these people have in common? They all worked their asses off and had to invest tons and tons of time, sweat and money! But no one in history can compare to the great Georgina Kelly!!

WHO THE F*** IS GEORGINA KELLY????

This overly under-rated entrepreneur has invested a mere 4000 dollars and has received worldwide recognition. This includes over 135 million YouTube views, a nomination in the MTV O Music Awards in the same category with the famous hip hop artist 50 Cent and even featured in a Jay Leno show. And her investment has paid off in a mere three months since the investment.

INTERESTING EH?? But who the hell is Georgina Kelly??

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Here is what Georgina Kelly has created!

Yes that’s right!! Mrs.Black paid USD4000 to a record label, ARK Music Factory, to write and produce a single accompanied by a music video. On the 10th of February 2011, the single “Friday” was released on YouTube and since then has made many accomplishments.

- Receiving over 135 MILLION views on YouTube

- Black appearing on “The Tonight Show with Jay Leno”

- Peaking at number 58 on the Billboard Hot 100 charts

- Making it to the top 50 in Australia (#40), Ireland (#46), New Zealand (#33)

- Nominated in the MTV O Music Awards for the Favorite Animated GIF with 50 Cent and Bert

- Parody of the song played on Hitz.FM every few hours

- Recently announced that the Cast of Glee will be covering “Friday” in their upcoming episode

Don’t you think that’s a 4000 bucks well spent??

And that it all paid off in a mere 3 months!! DAMN!! Compare that to Paris Hilton’s “Stars are Blind” which only has 1.6 million YouTube views and no other achievements other than peaking higher on the charts… (don't get me wrong, I personally think that it's a good song and I really do like it a lot)

Wouldn’t you agree that this is just pure genius? Imagine creating this little monster rising star with just four thousand bucks… Imagine the possibilities with more?

Makes me think,

what have I REALLY DONE WITH MY MONEY…

The Wingman... possibly the most under rated role in society!

According to Wikipedia:-

A Wingman is a role that a person may take when a friend needs support with approaching potential partners. A wingman is someone who is on the "inside" and is used to help someone with relationships. There seem to be gender differences such that females' friends help them avoid undesirable potential partners, while males' friends help them attract desirable potential mates.

WARNING: This post is written under the influence of alcohol!

Alright, as simple as it can get, a wingman is someone who takes up a supportive role to support the "gamer" to close "the deal". 

Easy right?

HELL NO!!! Wikipedia gives a very vague description saying that a wingman is to assist approaching potential partners. In this case, any idiot or bum from the side of the road can do so. To me, a  REAL wingman's job is to create a boost in value to the "gamer" who is approaching the potential partner. In order to do this, the wingman has to have a certain value and selling points himself. Imagine all the butt kissers "helping" the gamer, "oh my gosh, you're from this band" or "hey your shirt is very nice" , yeah it may create some false temporary (did i mention un-impact-ful?) value, but it's nothing to stay. 

However, imagine a well dressed person, or someone of authority or position  approaching you and complimenting you or having a conversation? Doesn't that mean something more? 

A wingman's job isn't as easy as just approaching and complimenting. He has to do a little research about the potential "target", make jokes, remind the "gamer", push him back onto track, take control of the surroundings (example is creating atmosphere by working with the DJ or the bartenders in the club), and everything possible to ensure that that deal is closed. He has to know when to come in and when to leave, the right words to say, not to appear cocky and arrogant, and not to draw too much attention to himself. In reality, a good wingman does 80% of the work while the gamer does 20% which is focused on the target and himself. This will work especially well if the wingman is someone of value, like the resident DJ or a sports celebrity.

Ideally, a wingman is often someone of high confidence, above average looks, dresses well and well aware of how the "game" works. This creates the impression that the people you hang with are of a certain standard and the target will WANT to be in the crowd, hence she WORKS harder to impress the "gamer".

A wingman should always understand the "actual" value of the gamer. He is in control of creating the intended "value" for the gamer. Be it a "false" or "real" value, it stands in the hands of the wingman, as girls often analyse a person by way he reacts to his crowd or surroundings. If a wingman creates a value that is way above the actual value of the gamer, the "relationship" won't last. On the other hand, if the value is too low, the gamer will likely not even score. 

Not as easy as it seems eh? 

The support role in anything in life has always been under rated. How often has the back end staff of an IT company been published in a magazine or newspaper? How many coaches are recognized for the performance of the team? When do song writers or audio engineers become more famous than the artists?

Yes it is a tough job and everybody wants to stand in the lime light. But somebody has to do it! It's actually alot more fun and gives you alot more perspective towards the "game"! Everyone has a role to play, plan yours out now. Not everyone has to be the star!

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1. A good wingman knows his role and will NEVER cock block the gamer.

2. Analyzes the situation and ensures that the gamer doesn't do anything that may turn the target off.

3. Takes control and steps in when appropriate.

4. Does his homework and advices the gamer accordingly.

5. Will never be in reach of the target and must never outshine the gamer.

Duck above water

How many of us are like this?

Have you ever seen a duck on water? All calm, tranquil, they look like they don't give a *toot*?? Did you know when they swim, their feet are stirring up a storm under water? Yet they remain all "cool" above the surface!! Blardy smart alecs these little buggers...

But think about it? How many of us are like these innocent looking beauties pedaling across the ponds?

Do you:

1. Act cool and happy when you go out with your friends?

2. Have a very deep sense of dissatisfaction deep within?

3. Always push aside questions about your emotions or problems with a fake sense of confidence and smile?

4. Make fun of other people or step on them just to give yourself a confidence boost?

5. Do you hurt, but yet try to help others who are weak just to look strong?

6. Is your heart holding back and feeling heavy?

7. Feel like you can break down anytime?

8. Feel like nobody understands you?

FEAR NOT... BECAUSE YOU'RE NOT THE ONLY ONE!! 

You'd be surprise how many people around you are in the same category as you! It is likely that the person that is making you feel this way is also pedaling around the in the same pond as you. 

WHY IS THIS HAPPENING???

It's simple... because in society today, it has become a norm that being "WEAK" is not "COOL". It is very likely that the reason we are not opening up to others and putting on a mask is because we are afraid to be a burden to our friends and family or we're afraid to "kena chop" emo or weak! But yeah, thats the standards of society...

WELCOME TO REALITY!!!

Well my advice to you is continue wearing your mask :)

WHAT???!?!?!?!?!?!

Yeah... you wouldn't want to fall behind the standards of society and become an outcast, would you? That'd only make you more emo and weaker. You need somewhere to rebuild your confidence and self-esteem and there's no where better than in the market place itself where the standards are set.

HOWEVER....


It is also very important to find someone you can spill your heart to, someone whom you trust or you can talk to... (P.S. THIS PERSON IS NOT YOUR EX GIRLFRIEND) Here are some recommendations:-
1. Your best friends/close friends
2. Your brother/sister?
3. Some random person in a chat room?
4. Pastors or Church leaders
5. Support groups. For eg. The Befrienders (http://www.befrienders.org.my)
6. ME :)


NOTE: NEVER RELY ON TWITTER OR FACEBOOK... THESE ARE PLACES WHERE PPL JUST ADD MORE COAL TO THE FIRE AND ARE SELFLESS THOUGHTLESS IMMATURE @RSEHOLE$ THAT THINK THEY KNOW EVERYTHING... (applied to some idiots who gives relationship advice and think they're all so perfect and idiot girls believe every sh*t they say)

It is important to have a balance between output and input, while you're taking in the stress of the world upon your shoulders, always be sure to pass the baton on. There are many people out there who are facing the same daily struggles and problems as you, so always remind yourself that you're not alone and that are many people who are open and more than willing to help you through these desperate times. Don't feel indebted to them, but rather pull yourself up and help the next person that comes to you as well! God created us to live in society, to support each other and to lift each other up. We are never REALLY alone, so it's time to SPEAK UP!!

Winds of Change...

Things are changing everyday, people are changing, environments are changing, personalities... character... opinions and visions... 

Today i made a massive change in my life, the future seems blurry and exiled but does that mean that the pasts was better? Sometimes we keep ourselves in a routine that drags us down and changes us to become weak and someone whom we really know that we are not... So... CHANGE IS NOT ACTUALLY A BAD THING! When someone decides to change, he/she finds out what is important or what needs improving, hence amazing things happens! For Example...

A drug addict is able to stop his addiction by his strong will!!

Or a lost or person who has lost hope finds religion and a new light.

Life changing experiences in life may be a difficult decision to make and we often fear it may be the wrong one, but in every dark corner of every event, there is always a bright side of things! So keep your head up, chest out and stomach in, and gather your courage for every step of the way, you'll be meeting new friends who will pull you through every step of the way. 

No one is truly alone, it is by our own isolation that we feel like nobody cares. 

It's about the company

Here's a short post :) Lately, I've been hanging out with some people I really enjoy spending time with and it has really helped me pick myself up! Don't get me wrong, I do treasure the time hanging out with my best friends but often enough, we don't share the same interest and most of the time just end out joking each other and talking bout our daily life and how stressful it is and what not. This is not exactly a bad thing... but if you think about it, what are we really talking about? I think it's more for the support and the company that we know that our best are there for us and that we trust them to pour our hearts out and borrow their shoulders. Plus we've known each other for so long that we have run out of crap and bull to tell each other. Ha~!

Now the company that i'm referring to here is a different group of people. These are people who share some common interests or similar situations as me, I find this a really enjoyable time. For example, a few days back I met up with a LONG LOST friend as in like REALLY LONG, and though we barely know each other, we are still able to catch up over a beer and talk like as though no time has passed. Or when I went out with another friend yesterday (although it was only two of us guys, looking like losers in the middle of a packed pub/restaurant) it was really an enjoyable time and I learnt so much from that one night alone. I guess hanging out with the right company reminds you of who you are and who you can be? What do you think about this?

The Trains

One day there was a passenger who wanted to take a train, so he went to the ticket counter and bought his ticket. When he went to the terminal there were 4 trains, so he decided to check them out one by one.

When he went to the first train he saw that there were no tracks in front of the train. He thought to himself, "This train will not go anywhere as it has no direction" and so he proceeded to another terminal.

At the second terminal, he saw that the train hadn't arrive, he waited a long while before saying, "This train will probably never arrive its destination and by the time it does, I will most probably not be here anymore". Hence he went to the next terminal.

The train at the third terminal looked good and was waiting for the passengers to board, so he got on it and the train started to move, when it did start moving, the ride became very bumpy and he noticed that the train was going around in circles and was burning out very quickly. He got off when the train reached the same station it started at, when he got down, he saw the train was tired out and old.

Now the last train was the most beautiful train he had ever seen and instantly fell in love with it. He boarded the train and it was clean with well arranged seats, nice enough to host a king. The passenger comfortably sat himself in one of the sofa seat and the train began to move. The journey began smooth and the passenger was happy, but days passed and the passenger began feeling hungry and thirsty, he looked for the stewards or the driver but there were none. The train was just moving without any stops and was going through the roughest of terrains just barely making the journey a little smoother, but without the service or supplements, the passenger soon began loosing his mind and was consumed by the train ride and the journey...

It's only human...

Every once in awhile i drop by my quiet blog just to see if anything has changed... and every once in awhile I always tell myself that I will post a new entry... once again as you can see... it hasn't been done :( 

Well, today I'm going to rant about how humans are humans... 

I think we all know how we are always unsatisfied and unappreciative about the things that we have, well how can we be, it's only human! We always want to receive more than we give and expect things to go according to how we want it to be, and we always expect people who care about us to sit in our personal locker room and wait for our whole performance to be done with. In one way we can say that this is kind of hypocritical. For example, especially in Malaysia, we can't stand people being late but, as often as possible, we are arriving at meet ups half an hour late and expect it to be fine. Welcome SUPERSTAR mentality. 

It seems as though we are the centre of gravity and everything else revolves around us. When will we ever be "happy" or "satisfied"? The rich wants to get richer, the successful wants fame, we want more and more and MORE, when will we be content and appreciate what God has placed here in our hands? Right now, i'm contented with what I have, but am I happy? Well the truth is, I'm really not... I do want more and expect more...