Guess you just cant put me in a box!

Being a somewhat "psychology" junkie! I do enjoy understanding people and the consequences of actions and reactions. Today I did another two personality tests from two different sites (SimilarMinds.com and Goddessflight), which both came out with different results on my personality! The first was bearable as the results showed me to be an ENTP (The Inventor), the other showed me a whole opposite of what I would have expected myself to be ISTP. These two are very different results and explanation from the initial ENFP which I was so proud of, ironically, when you read the explanation of these personality types, they do SOMEWHAT reflect on the type of person that you are. To conclude, I guess people's personality really does vary to the mood their in and the situations that their going through as well as the environment that surrounds them. People act differently in different situations, we can see this by the structure of the questions asked in these different personality quizzes. So don't limit yourself to just one personality type, just be proud of who you are and be yourself! 

For the fun of it, I'm gonna list down the details on ENTP and ISTP below! Enjoy!

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ENTP - "Inventor". Enthusiastic interest in everything and always sensitive to possibilities. Non-conformist and innovative. 3.2% of the total population.

Inventors begin building gadgets and mechanisms as young children, and never really stop, though as adults they will turn their inventiveness to many kinds of organizations, social as well as mechanical. There aren't many Inventors, say about two percent of the population, but they have great impact on our everyday lives. With their innovative, entrepreneurial spirit, Inventors are always on the lookout for a better way, always eyeing new projects, new enterprises, new processes. Always aiming to "build a better mousetrap."

Inventors are keenly pragmatic, and often become expert at devising the most effective means to accomplish their ends. They are the most reluctant of all the types to do things in a particular manner just because that's the way they have been done. As a result, they often bring fresh, new approaches to their work and play. They are intensely curious and continuously probe for possibilities, especially when trying to solve complex problems. Inventors are filled with ideas, but value ideas only when they make possible actions and objects. Thus they see product design not as an end in itself, but as a means to an end, as a way of devising the prototype that works and that can be brought to market. Inventors are confident in their pragmatism, counting on their ability to find effective ways and means when they need them, rather than making a detailed blueprint in advance. A rough idea is all they need to feel ready to proceed into action.

Inventors often have a lively circle of friends and are interested in their ideas and activities. They are usually easy-going, seldom critical or carping. Inventors can be engaging conversationalists, able to express their own complicated ideas and to follow the ideas of others. When arguing issues, however, they may deliberately employ debate skills to the serious disadvantage of their opponents.

Inventors are usually non-conformists in the workplace, and can succeed in many areas as long as the job does not involve too much humdrum routine. They make good leaders on pilot projects that test their ingenuity. And they are skilled at engineering human relationships and human systems, quickly grasping the politics of institutions and always wanting to understand the people within the system rather than tell them what to do. No matter what their occupation, however, Inventors display an extraordinary talent for rising to the demands of even the most impossible situations. "It can't be done" is a challenge to an Inventor and elicits a reaction of "I can do it."

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ISTP - Introvert/Sensing/Thinking/Perceiving

Naturally reserved and thriving on adventure and challenge, you much prefer action to conversation. You also have a penchant for observing what is going on around you. You enjoy activities that require hands on skills. Resourceful and independent, your motivations come from within you. You are a collector of information, rational, realistic and pragmatic. People often have a difficult time figuring you out, and you will remain a mystery to many. 

In relationships you are not one to have deep talks, but would rather let your actions speak for you. You display your love and care for others by doing practical things for them. You are not one to take on too many commitments or obligations--if any. You need your time alone and even though you are probably very loyal, this may cause conflict at times. You are not one to start fights, but you wont back away from one either. 

We DO kind of have a similar smile don't we!

Famous People of Your Type:

Charles Bronson, Tom Cruise, James Dean, Clint Eastwood, Zachary Taylor, Burt Reynolds, Keith Richards, Charlie Yeager, Frank Zappa. 

Optimistic Thinking vs Positive Thinking

I'd like to believe that I'm an optimistic person. Often when asked to describe myself, I would proudly list optimism as one of my traits. In an interesting early morning conversation with a distant friend, we came across the topic on the differences between optimistic thinking and positive thinking. She was debating that the two are the same, and I on the other hand believed (or would like to believe) that there were differences between the two.

Hence, I sought the help of my good friend Google, and made a search. An interesting read from CoachKip  described the difference between positive thinking and optimistic in simple terms.

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Positive Thinking

With positive thinking people say only good things.  They always look to find the positive meaning in something.  They go out convincing themselves that if they think positively then good things will happen.  Thinking positively usually has people saying it out loud “the economy is down but there is only one way for it to go.”  Positive thinkers often times come on too strong and it puts people off, and pushes them away.

Optimistic Thinkers

With optimistic thinking people they only feel good things.  Everything always has a good side to the optimistic thinker.  No one can ever convince an optimistic thinker that something is negative once the optimistic thinker has made up their mind.  Optimistic thinkers tend to keep their thoughts to themselves, there is no need for them to tell anyone that they are optimistic, people just know.  People tend to follow optimistic thinkers, and optimistic thinkers tend to attract more people to them.

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At the end of the day, I stood firmly on my believes that there really was a difference between the two and that I am indeed an optimistic person!

HAVE A GOOD DAY EVERYONE!!

EPF Clarifies Chain Email On Nomination Of Age 55 Members

There has been a circulation of chain mail regarding EPF members whom have turned 55 have to  renominate their beneficiary. Just like most chain mails, this is just SPAM!

In response to this mail, the GM of public relations released a statement on the KWSP website  that only members who have made an age 55 withdrawal before the 1st February 2008 needs to perform a renomination of their beneficiary and for members whom have made their age 55 withdrawal after the stated date remains valid.

Do your research before forwarding chain mails to avoid unnecessary panic.

Cheers~!!

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The Employees Provident Fund (EPF) would like to stress that the nomination of EPF members who have reached the age of 55 remains valid. This clarification comes in response to the recent chain email that claimed nominations of EPF members who have turned 55 are void and that they have to renominate.

We would like to clarify that an EPF member only has to renominate his or her beneficiary upon turning 55 years of age if he or she had made an Age 55 Withdrawal before 1 February 2008. Therefore, if this member were to continue to contribute to the EPF, he or she would need to make a new nomination.

For EPF members who have made Age 55 Withdrawal after 1 February 2008, their nomination continues to be valid unless a new nomination is made to replace the earlier one. This also applies to members who are 55 years of age but have not made the said withdrawal.

We hope that this statement will put to rest any confusion regarding this issue. The EPF wishes to assure its members that their nomination is safe and secure.

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Have a great day ahead!!

HAPPY MONDAY EVERYONE!!!

Got the Monday blues??

Today I shall be grateful!!
Shall I name 10 things I'm grateful for?
1. My family
2. My friends
3. My girlfriend
4. My band
5. My talent
6. My job
7. Being able to live a comfortable life
8. Having an optimistic and positive personality
9. Being able to enjoy the simple things in life
10. God!! For blessing me with all these things I can be grateful for!

It's good to take some time of reflection to see how wonderful your life really is. Having a good life doesn't mean everything is going well and good all the time. There must be balance and balance is everything. With every up there will be a down, with every sad there will be a happy, with every good there will be bad. Uncertainty makes life exciting and grief makes every happy worth while! Appreciation is the key, have you told that special person how much you cared for him/her? Have you thanked your friends and family for being there for you? Do you realize how much you DO have compared to what other's don't? It may be a nickel but a nickel may buy a meal in some countries facing poverty.

HAVE A GREAT DAY AHEAD!!

The Wingman... possibly the most under rated role in society!

According to Wikipedia:-

A Wingman is a role that a person may take when a friend needs support with approaching potential partners. A wingman is someone who is on the "inside" and is used to help someone with relationships. There seem to be gender differences such that females' friends help them avoid undesirable potential partners, while males' friends help them attract desirable potential mates.

WARNING: This post is written under the influence of alcohol!

Alright, as simple as it can get, a wingman is someone who takes up a supportive role to support the "gamer" to close "the deal". 

Easy right?

HELL NO!!! Wikipedia gives a very vague description saying that a wingman is to assist approaching potential partners. In this case, any idiot or bum from the side of the road can do so. To me, a  REAL wingman's job is to create a boost in value to the "gamer" who is approaching the potential partner. In order to do this, the wingman has to have a certain value and selling points himself. Imagine all the butt kissers "helping" the gamer, "oh my gosh, you're from this band" or "hey your shirt is very nice" , yeah it may create some false temporary (did i mention un-impact-ful?) value, but it's nothing to stay. 

However, imagine a well dressed person, or someone of authority or position  approaching you and complimenting you or having a conversation? Doesn't that mean something more? 

A wingman's job isn't as easy as just approaching and complimenting. He has to do a little research about the potential "target", make jokes, remind the "gamer", push him back onto track, take control of the surroundings (example is creating atmosphere by working with the DJ or the bartenders in the club), and everything possible to ensure that that deal is closed. He has to know when to come in and when to leave, the right words to say, not to appear cocky and arrogant, and not to draw too much attention to himself. In reality, a good wingman does 80% of the work while the gamer does 20% which is focused on the target and himself. This will work especially well if the wingman is someone of value, like the resident DJ or a sports celebrity.

Ideally, a wingman is often someone of high confidence, above average looks, dresses well and well aware of how the "game" works. This creates the impression that the people you hang with are of a certain standard and the target will WANT to be in the crowd, hence she WORKS harder to impress the "gamer".

A wingman should always understand the "actual" value of the gamer. He is in control of creating the intended "value" for the gamer. Be it a "false" or "real" value, it stands in the hands of the wingman, as girls often analyse a person by way he reacts to his crowd or surroundings. If a wingman creates a value that is way above the actual value of the gamer, the "relationship" won't last. On the other hand, if the value is too low, the gamer will likely not even score. 

Not as easy as it seems eh? 

The support role in anything in life has always been under rated. How often has the back end staff of an IT company been published in a magazine or newspaper? How many coaches are recognized for the performance of the team? When do song writers or audio engineers become more famous than the artists?

Yes it is a tough job and everybody wants to stand in the lime light. But somebody has to do it! It's actually alot more fun and gives you alot more perspective towards the "game"! Everyone has a role to play, plan yours out now. Not everyone has to be the star!

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1. A good wingman knows his role and will NEVER cock block the gamer.

2. Analyzes the situation and ensures that the gamer doesn't do anything that may turn the target off.

3. Takes control and steps in when appropriate.

4. Does his homework and advices the gamer accordingly.

5. Will never be in reach of the target and must never outshine the gamer.

Duck above water

How many of us are like this?

Have you ever seen a duck on water? All calm, tranquil, they look like they don't give a *toot*?? Did you know when they swim, their feet are stirring up a storm under water? Yet they remain all "cool" above the surface!! Blardy smart alecs these little buggers...

But think about it? How many of us are like these innocent looking beauties pedaling across the ponds?

Do you:

1. Act cool and happy when you go out with your friends?

2. Have a very deep sense of dissatisfaction deep within?

3. Always push aside questions about your emotions or problems with a fake sense of confidence and smile?

4. Make fun of other people or step on them just to give yourself a confidence boost?

5. Do you hurt, but yet try to help others who are weak just to look strong?

6. Is your heart holding back and feeling heavy?

7. Feel like you can break down anytime?

8. Feel like nobody understands you?

FEAR NOT... BECAUSE YOU'RE NOT THE ONLY ONE!! 

You'd be surprise how many people around you are in the same category as you! It is likely that the person that is making you feel this way is also pedaling around the in the same pond as you. 

WHY IS THIS HAPPENING???

It's simple... because in society today, it has become a norm that being "WEAK" is not "COOL". It is very likely that the reason we are not opening up to others and putting on a mask is because we are afraid to be a burden to our friends and family or we're afraid to "kena chop" emo or weak! But yeah, thats the standards of society...

WELCOME TO REALITY!!!

Well my advice to you is continue wearing your mask :)

WHAT???!?!?!?!?!?!

Yeah... you wouldn't want to fall behind the standards of society and become an outcast, would you? That'd only make you more emo and weaker. You need somewhere to rebuild your confidence and self-esteem and there's no where better than in the market place itself where the standards are set.

HOWEVER....


It is also very important to find someone you can spill your heart to, someone whom you trust or you can talk to... (P.S. THIS PERSON IS NOT YOUR EX GIRLFRIEND) Here are some recommendations:-
1. Your best friends/close friends
2. Your brother/sister?
3. Some random person in a chat room?
4. Pastors or Church leaders
5. Support groups. For eg. The Befrienders (http://www.befrienders.org.my)
6. ME :)


NOTE: NEVER RELY ON TWITTER OR FACEBOOK... THESE ARE PLACES WHERE PPL JUST ADD MORE COAL TO THE FIRE AND ARE SELFLESS THOUGHTLESS IMMATURE @RSEHOLE$ THAT THINK THEY KNOW EVERYTHING... (applied to some idiots who gives relationship advice and think they're all so perfect and idiot girls believe every sh*t they say)

It is important to have a balance between output and input, while you're taking in the stress of the world upon your shoulders, always be sure to pass the baton on. There are many people out there who are facing the same daily struggles and problems as you, so always remind yourself that you're not alone and that are many people who are open and more than willing to help you through these desperate times. Don't feel indebted to them, but rather pull yourself up and help the next person that comes to you as well! God created us to live in society, to support each other and to lift each other up. We are never REALLY alone, so it's time to SPEAK UP!!

Winds of Change...

Things are changing everyday, people are changing, environments are changing, personalities... character... opinions and visions... 

Today i made a massive change in my life, the future seems blurry and exiled but does that mean that the pasts was better? Sometimes we keep ourselves in a routine that drags us down and changes us to become weak and someone whom we really know that we are not... So... CHANGE IS NOT ACTUALLY A BAD THING! When someone decides to change, he/she finds out what is important or what needs improving, hence amazing things happens! For Example...

A drug addict is able to stop his addiction by his strong will!!

Or a lost or person who has lost hope finds religion and a new light.

Life changing experiences in life may be a difficult decision to make and we often fear it may be the wrong one, but in every dark corner of every event, there is always a bright side of things! So keep your head up, chest out and stomach in, and gather your courage for every step of the way, you'll be meeting new friends who will pull you through every step of the way. 

No one is truly alone, it is by our own isolation that we feel like nobody cares. 

Alpha Male vs Complete Asshole

I was thinking over lunch of what I read from Clement's blog, and it occurred to me on the matter of the AMOG. In every group, there will be 3 types of people:-

1. The Natural Leaders - These are the people who naturally walk in front and everybody likes, the others in the group will naturally follow what he say and will be Mr. Popular. This is usually the Alpha Male of the group.

2. The 2nd in Command - Every leader needs his assistance, this guy takes the role of leader when The Natural Leader is not around. He is also probably the only person whom will stand up to what The Natural Leader says or whom the Natural Leader will consider listening to and have a "deep conversation" with. However the downside of this position is you'll have many haters cause everybody want's to be "closer" to the leader in the group, hence most those in this category are usually singled out by the people in the group.

3. The Other - These are the YES MEN whom suck up the the Natural Leader and who cant or dare not do anything on their own.

But I'm not here to judge anyone... today I'm talking about the Alpha Male.

WELL..... There is a very fine line between an...

ALPHA MALE and being A COMPLETE ASSHOLE!!!!!

I've came across my fair share of people around, with different personalities and from different backgrounds.

Here's an article on "Alpha Male Characteristics" taken from Hub Pages

*take note on the parts highlighted in GREEN as i will be discussing about it later on in this post*

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Alpha Male Characteristics: Knowing About the Way Alpha Male Acts
Becoming an alpha male is not something that you can do overnight. You have to remember that it is essential that you need to get rid of the beta male characteristics in order for you to become ready to be an alpha male. You have to remember that there are certain traits or characteristics that differentiate the alpha male from the beta male. If you want to be like the alpha male, you have to start acting like one and you will see that your dating life will significantly improve.

The first thing that you need to avoid is to leer at the attractive women in the bar. Pretty girls know they are attractive and that they can turn men's heads when she walks by. She loves this kind of attention. Now, don't be like the beta male who will leer at that pretty girl. Try ignoring her or try to not be interested in her and it will leave her wondering why and will pay more attention to you.

Beta male try to dominate but the alpha male knows they are the best. Never be bossy around people. Instead, try to be confident and be relaxed.

If you are dating, try to keep the conversation flowing with the topic that you like to talk about. You have to remember that the alpha male will never follow a person's agenda. If you get bored, then talk about the things that interest you.

Another factor that you need to avoid is by proving that you are better than others. This is a common beta male trait and they often start a fight whether verbal or physical just to prove to women that they are better than others. Alpha males know that they are smarter and better than others and they don't need to prove it. They feel secure enough that they don't have to try and please other people instantly.

You have to consider that not all successful males today are that smart. They just know how to act like one and this is one of the many alpha male traits. Always remember that you should never try and impress other people by doing things that are way out of your league.

Instead, try to always be confident and relaxed. By being like this, you will see that you will attract more women as you will be like a very powerful male even without trying.

As you can see, being the alpha male doesn't mean that you need to impress someone and prove yourself. Instead, being the alpha male means that you should be confident and secure enough that you will never have to prove that you are better than anyone else. You know that you are better and you should never be bossy.

So, if you want to become the alpha male, always remember that the first step is by getting rid of the beta male traits and characteristics and you can begin learning the ways of the alpha male.

These are just some of the tips that you need to remember about becoming the alpha male. You have to remember that confidence is the key. Always be relaxed in any situations and simple lead a laid back life and you can be sure that women will be attracted to you.
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Hope you guys had a good read and enjoyed it! Now, here are 5 common mistakes the differentiates an Alpha Male from a Complete Asshole!!

1. Get rid of beta male characteristics
Yes it is correct that you get rid of your beta male characteristics, but please, I repeat PLEASE do not forget who you are. It is important to stay at the top of your game at all times but do not forget your routes and backstab everyone else who brought you there.

2. Start acting like one
I always agree with the saying "fake it till you make it" but most people try too hard as what they see in MTV video's or what. Acting like one means playing the part, do it naturally and dont try anything that you do not feel comfortable with or who is just not you.

3. Beta males try to dominate but Alpha males know they are the best
4. Avoid proving that you're better than others - Alpha Males know that they are smarter and better and they don't need to prove it
This is a very common thing you can see "Alpha Male" wannabes failing to do. Most of these people always try to show off how their better than others and criticize others weaknesses to make themselves look good. As an Alpha Male, you should know that you are the best and act the role, not compete against the Beta males and look like a fool. Like the Simpsons movie said, "take a 100 strong men and a 100 weak men to make the strong men look stronger".

5. Knowing how to act like one - should never try to impress others by doing things that are out of their league
As mentioned above we have to start acting the role, but we also have to KNOW how to act the role or we may end out looking like idiots. I'm sure you have came across some showy people who always say "I can do this" "I can do that" "that person lousy la, I can do better" but once you ask them to do it, they just cant... So it's better to be honest to yourself and avoid the humiliation. * It's okay to tell the jokes, but avoid BEING the joke *

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Well anyway I'm not here to judge anyone but to share my point of view on the matter, it's just that I have some people around me that try too hard at being an Alpha Male that have lost sight of reality. It's really sad that I can sometimes see people laughing at them behind their back especially when these people are close to me. But we all fall into some of these categories once in awhile as well, so do not be afraid to remind your BRO when you feel things are getting out of hand, and do take time to reflect on yourself once in awhile!

Cheers!