The Wingman... possibly the most under rated role in society!

According to Wikipedia:-

A Wingman is a role that a person may take when a friend needs support with approaching potential partners. A wingman is someone who is on the "inside" and is used to help someone with relationships. There seem to be gender differences such that females' friends help them avoid undesirable potential partners, while males' friends help them attract desirable potential mates.

WARNING: This post is written under the influence of alcohol!

Alright, as simple as it can get, a wingman is someone who takes up a supportive role to support the "gamer" to close "the deal". 

Easy right?

HELL NO!!! Wikipedia gives a very vague description saying that a wingman is to assist approaching potential partners. In this case, any idiot or bum from the side of the road can do so. To me, a  REAL wingman's job is to create a boost in value to the "gamer" who is approaching the potential partner. In order to do this, the wingman has to have a certain value and selling points himself. Imagine all the butt kissers "helping" the gamer, "oh my gosh, you're from this band" or "hey your shirt is very nice" , yeah it may create some false temporary (did i mention un-impact-ful?) value, but it's nothing to stay. 

However, imagine a well dressed person, or someone of authority or position  approaching you and complimenting you or having a conversation? Doesn't that mean something more? 

A wingman's job isn't as easy as just approaching and complimenting. He has to do a little research about the potential "target", make jokes, remind the "gamer", push him back onto track, take control of the surroundings (example is creating atmosphere by working with the DJ or the bartenders in the club), and everything possible to ensure that that deal is closed. He has to know when to come in and when to leave, the right words to say, not to appear cocky and arrogant, and not to draw too much attention to himself. In reality, a good wingman does 80% of the work while the gamer does 20% which is focused on the target and himself. This will work especially well if the wingman is someone of value, like the resident DJ or a sports celebrity.

Ideally, a wingman is often someone of high confidence, above average looks, dresses well and well aware of how the "game" works. This creates the impression that the people you hang with are of a certain standard and the target will WANT to be in the crowd, hence she WORKS harder to impress the "gamer".

A wingman should always understand the "actual" value of the gamer. He is in control of creating the intended "value" for the gamer. Be it a "false" or "real" value, it stands in the hands of the wingman, as girls often analyse a person by way he reacts to his crowd or surroundings. If a wingman creates a value that is way above the actual value of the gamer, the "relationship" won't last. On the other hand, if the value is too low, the gamer will likely not even score. 

Not as easy as it seems eh? 

The support role in anything in life has always been under rated. How often has the back end staff of an IT company been published in a magazine or newspaper? How many coaches are recognized for the performance of the team? When do song writers or audio engineers become more famous than the artists?

Yes it is a tough job and everybody wants to stand in the lime light. But somebody has to do it! It's actually alot more fun and gives you alot more perspective towards the "game"! Everyone has a role to play, plan yours out now. Not everyone has to be the star!

Added:

1. A good wingman knows his role and will NEVER cock block the gamer.

2. Analyzes the situation and ensures that the gamer doesn't do anything that may turn the target off.

3. Takes control and steps in when appropriate.

4. Does his homework and advices the gamer accordingly.

5. Will never be in reach of the target and must never outshine the gamer.

DAMNIT!!! Silly ol' me...

I've just been enlightened... 

Who would have known that  people COULD comment on my posts? How could I not have noticed this before. But wait.. who WOULD comment on my posts?? Haha I need to find a way to make the comment box more noticeable -.-" 

any ideas?

Duck above water

How many of us are like this?

Have you ever seen a duck on water? All calm, tranquil, they look like they don't give a *toot*?? Did you know when they swim, their feet are stirring up a storm under water? Yet they remain all "cool" above the surface!! Blardy smart alecs these little buggers...

But think about it? How many of us are like these innocent looking beauties pedaling across the ponds?

Do you:

1. Act cool and happy when you go out with your friends?

2. Have a very deep sense of dissatisfaction deep within?

3. Always push aside questions about your emotions or problems with a fake sense of confidence and smile?

4. Make fun of other people or step on them just to give yourself a confidence boost?

5. Do you hurt, but yet try to help others who are weak just to look strong?

6. Is your heart holding back and feeling heavy?

7. Feel like you can break down anytime?

8. Feel like nobody understands you?

FEAR NOT... BECAUSE YOU'RE NOT THE ONLY ONE!! 

You'd be surprise how many people around you are in the same category as you! It is likely that the person that is making you feel this way is also pedaling around the in the same pond as you. 

WHY IS THIS HAPPENING???

It's simple... because in society today, it has become a norm that being "WEAK" is not "COOL". It is very likely that the reason we are not opening up to others and putting on a mask is because we are afraid to be a burden to our friends and family or we're afraid to "kena chop" emo or weak! But yeah, thats the standards of society...

WELCOME TO REALITY!!!

Well my advice to you is continue wearing your mask :)

WHAT???!?!?!?!?!?!

Yeah... you wouldn't want to fall behind the standards of society and become an outcast, would you? That'd only make you more emo and weaker. You need somewhere to rebuild your confidence and self-esteem and there's no where better than in the market place itself where the standards are set.

HOWEVER....


It is also very important to find someone you can spill your heart to, someone whom you trust or you can talk to... (P.S. THIS PERSON IS NOT YOUR EX GIRLFRIEND) Here are some recommendations:-
1. Your best friends/close friends
2. Your brother/sister?
3. Some random person in a chat room?
4. Pastors or Church leaders
5. Support groups. For eg. The Befrienders (http://www.befrienders.org.my)
6. ME :)


NOTE: NEVER RELY ON TWITTER OR FACEBOOK... THESE ARE PLACES WHERE PPL JUST ADD MORE COAL TO THE FIRE AND ARE SELFLESS THOUGHTLESS IMMATURE @RSEHOLE$ THAT THINK THEY KNOW EVERYTHING... (applied to some idiots who gives relationship advice and think they're all so perfect and idiot girls believe every sh*t they say)

It is important to have a balance between output and input, while you're taking in the stress of the world upon your shoulders, always be sure to pass the baton on. There are many people out there who are facing the same daily struggles and problems as you, so always remind yourself that you're not alone and that are many people who are open and more than willing to help you through these desperate times. Don't feel indebted to them, but rather pull yourself up and help the next person that comes to you as well! God created us to live in society, to support each other and to lift each other up. We are never REALLY alone, so it's time to SPEAK UP!!

I love movies :)

My seasonal excitement!!

My movie obsession is on a seasonal basis...  

Did I say I loved cartoons??

When i start my movie watching spree, I watch almost 5 - 10 movies a week o.O

Yeah... I get what ya'll are thinking! This post doesnt make sense... what are you trying to say? Well here's the thing. My friends keep asking me, "haven't you watched a movie yesterday? Why today also you want to watch?" 

That's just who I am! I love action, i love romance, i love cartoons, i love fantasy, i love speed.... 

What's your seasonal excitement?

Winds of Change...

Things are changing everyday, people are changing, environments are changing, personalities... character... opinions and visions... 

Today i made a massive change in my life, the future seems blurry and exiled but does that mean that the pasts was better? Sometimes we keep ourselves in a routine that drags us down and changes us to become weak and someone whom we really know that we are not... So... CHANGE IS NOT ACTUALLY A BAD THING! When someone decides to change, he/she finds out what is important or what needs improving, hence amazing things happens! For Example...

A drug addict is able to stop his addiction by his strong will!!

Or a lost or person who has lost hope finds religion and a new light.

Life changing experiences in life may be a difficult decision to make and we often fear it may be the wrong one, but in every dark corner of every event, there is always a bright side of things! So keep your head up, chest out and stomach in, and gather your courage for every step of the way, you'll be meeting new friends who will pull you through every step of the way. 

No one is truly alone, it is by our own isolation that we feel like nobody cares. 

The end gets dark...

Today I noticed that I was experiencing pain in my ears when. I swear I have never been so scared in my life. For those who doesn't know me, my life is surrounded by music and without being able to hear what should I do next? Hmm... it's a worrying time and I can only pray and hope that it's not a  serious issue or possibly just be fatigue.

The major differences of Protestants and Catholics

Here's an interesting read I came across last night, it helped me understand deeper the differences between our two cultures and believes. I'm not judgemental towards either denomination or believes, as I believe that God has a given plan for us, regardless of whichever path we follow and that we are placed there for a reason.

I did not write or own any of the material below and it was directly taken from this source.

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Question: "What is the difference between Catholics and Protestants?"

Answer: There are several very important differences between Catholics and Protestants. While there have been some attempts over the last several years to find common ground between the two groups, the fact is that the differences remain, and they are just as important today as they were at the beginning of the Protestant Reformation. Following is brief summary of some of the more important differences.

One of the first major differences between Catholicism and Protestantism is the issue of the sufficiency and authority of Scripture. Protestants believe that the Bible alone is the sole source of God’s special revelation to mankind, and as such it teaches us all that is necessary for our salvation from sin. Protestants view the Bible as the standard by which all Christian behavior must be measured. This belief is commonly referred to as “Sola Scriptura” and is one of the “Five Solas” (sola being Latin for “alone”) that came out of the Protestant Reformation as summaries of some of the important differences between Catholics and Protestants.

While there are many verses in the Bible that establish its authority and its sufficiency for all matters of faith and practice, one of the clearest is 2 Timothy 3:16 where we see that “All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness; that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work.” Catholics on the other hand reject the doctrine of “Sola Scriptura” and do not believe that the Bible alone is sufficient. They believe that both the Bible and sacred Roman Catholic tradition are equally binding upon the Christian. Many Roman Catholics doctrines, such as purgatory, praying to the saints, worship or veneration of Mary, etc. have little or no basis at all in Scripture, but are based solely on Roman Catholic traditions. Essentially the Roman Catholic Church’s denial of “Sola Scriptura” and their insistence that both the Bible and their “Sacred Tradition” are equal in authority undermines the sufficiency, authority and completeness of the Bible. The view of Scripture is at the root of many of, if not all, the differences between Catholics and Protestants.

Another major but closely related difference between Catholicism and Protestantism is over the office and authority of the Pope. According to Catholicism the Pope is the “Vicar of Christ” (a vicar is a substitute), and takes the place of Jesus as the visible head of the Church. As such he has the ability to speak “ex cathedra” (with authority on matters of faith and practice), and when he does so his teachings are considered infallible and binding upon all Christians. On the other hand, Protestants believe that no human being is infallible, and that Christ alone is the head of the church. Catholics rely on apostolic succession as a way of trying to establishing the Pope’s authority. But Protestants believe that the church’s authority does not come from apostolic succession, but instead is derived from the Word of God. Spiritual power and authority does not rest in the hands of a mere man, but in the very Word of God recorded in Scripture. While Catholicism teaches that only the Catholic Church can properly and correctly interpret the Bible, Protestants believe that the Bible teaches that God sent the Holy Spirit to indwell all born again believers, enabling all believers to understand the message of the Bible.

This is clearly seen in passages such as John 14:16-17: “I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may be with you forever; that is the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it does not see Him or know Him, but you know Him because He abides with you and will be in you.” (See also John 14:26 and 1 John 2:27). While Catholicism teaches that only the Roman Catholic Church has the authority and power to interpret the Bible, Protestantism acknowledges the biblical doctrine of the priesthood of all believers, and that individual Christians can trust the Holy Spirit for guidance in reading and interpreting the Bible for themselves.

A third major difference between Catholicism and Protestantism is how one is saved. Another of the “Five Solas” of the reformation was “Sola Fide” (faith alone), which affirms the biblical doctrine of justification by grace alone through faith alone because of Christ alone (Ephesians 2:8-10). However, according to Roman Catholicism, man cannot be saved by faith alone in Christ alone. They teach that the Christian must rely on faith plus “meritorious works” in order to be saved. Essential to the Roman Catholic doctrine of salvation are the Seven Sacraments, which are: baptism, confirmation, the Eucharist, Penance, anointing of the sick, Holy Orders, and matrimony. Protestants believe that on the basis of faith in Christ alone, believers are justified by God as all their sins are paid for by Christ on the cross and His righteousness is imputed to them. Catholics on the other hand believe that Christ’s righteousness is imparted to the believer by “grace through faith,” but in itself is not sufficient to justify the believer. The believer must “supplement” the righteousness of Christ imparted to him with meritorious works.

Catholics and Protestants also disagree on what it means to be justified before God. To the Catholic, justification involves being made righteous and holy. They believe that faith in Christ is only the beginning of salvation, and that the individual must build upon that with good works because “man has to merit God’s grace of justification and eternal salvation.” Of course this view of justification contradicts the clear teaching of Scripture in passages such as Romans 4:1-12; Titus 3:3-7, as well as many others. On the other hand, Protestants distinguish between the one time act of justification (when we are declared righteous and holy by God based on our faith in Christ’s atonement on the cross), and sanctification (the ongoing process of being made righteous that continues throughout our lives on earth.) While Protestants recognize that works are important, they believe they are the result or fruit of salvation, but never the means to it. Catholics blend justification and sanctification together into one ongoing process, which leads to confusion about how one is saved.

A fourth major difference between Catholics and Protestants has to do with what happens after men die. While both believe that unbelievers will spend eternity in hell, there is significant and important differences as to what happens to believers. From their church traditions and their reliance of non-canonical books, the Catholics have developed the doctrine of purgatory. Purgatory, according to the Catholic Encyclopedia, is a “place or condition of temporal punishment for those who, departing this life in God’s grace are, not entirely free from venial faults, or have not fully paid the satisfaction due to their transgressions.” On the other hand, Protestants believe that because we are justified by faith in Christ alone, and that Christ’s righteousness is imputed to us – when we die we will go straight to heaven to be in the presence of the Lord (Corinthians 5:6-10 and Philippians 1:23).

Yet even more disturbing about the Catholic doctrine of purgatory is the fact that they believe that man must or even can pay or make satisfaction for his own sins. This along with their misunderstanding of what the Bible teaches about how man is justified before God, results in a low view of the sufficiency and efficiency of Christ’s atonement on the cross. Simply put, the Roman Catholic viewpoint on salvation implies that Christ’s atonement on the cross was not sufficient payment for the sins of those who believe in Him, and that even a believer must atone or pay for his own sins, either through acts of penance, or time in purgatory. Yet the Bible teaches over and over again that it is Christ’s death alone that can satisfy or propitiate God’s wrath against sinners (Romans 3:25; Hebrews 2:17; 1 John 2:2; 1 John 4:10). Our works of righteousness cannot add to what Christ has already accomplished.

While there are numerous other differences between what Catholics and Protestants believe, these four should be adequate to establish that there are serious differences between the two. In much the same way as the Judiziers (Jews who said that Gentile Christians had to obey the Old Testament law to be saved) that Paul wrote about in Galatians, Catholics, by making works necessary for one to be justified by God, end up with a completely different gospel. The differences between Catholicism and evangelical Protestants are important and significant.

It is our prayer that God will open up the eyes of anyone reading this article who is putting their faith or trust in the teachings of the Catholic Church. It is our hope that everyone will understand and believe that their “works of righteousness’ cannot justify them, or sanctify them (Isaiah 64:6). It is our prayer that all will instead put their faith solely in the fact that we are “justified as a gift by His grace through the redemption which is in Christ Jesus, whom God displayed as a propitiation in His blood through faith.” (Romans 3:24-25). God saves us, “not on the basis of deeds which we have done in righteousness, but according to His mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewing by the Holy Spirit, whom He poured out upon us richly through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that being justified by His grace we would be made heirs according to the hope of eternal life” (Titus 3:5-7).

Source: http://www.gotquestions.org/difference-Catholic-Protestant.html

Android: Bible Applications

If you're looking for a bible application and are not sure which ones to use, I would recommend using "Bible" by LifeChurch.tv or "Daily Bible" by JoanSoft. Why do I use two separate bible apps? Well, each of them have their own advantages.

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LiveChurch.tv - Bible

- Contains modern English Bible translations including the NIV, ESV, NLT, NKJV, AMP, NASB, CEV, NET, WEB, NCV, TNIV, HCSB, The Message and more.

- Foreign language bibles available including German, French, Italian, Chinese Simplified and Traditional, Swedish, Korean, Japanese, Norwegian, Czech, Bulgarian, Dutch, Portuguese, Romanian, Russian and more.

- Easy to bookmark, copy text and has your own online database on YouVersion.com

- Provides many bible plans to choose from. Just pick which is most suitable for you. (P.S. if you've fallen behind or gotten ahead, one simple button will allow you to sync back with your plan)

- One of the best part yet, NOTES! you can make public or private notes on your Bible reading. Your notes sync with YouVersion.com. View public notes (formerly “contributions”) from other Bible App users.

     > Official Website : YouVersion

    > Read More about the application and the features

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JoanSoft - Daily Bible

I particularly like this application because of it's daily bible verse that updates at a time that you set. There's nothing better than waking up to the Word of God. Another feature that I enjoy about the Daily Bible is the "Play" button where the application will actually read the verses to you. 

- This app also provides a home screen widget where it can show your daily verse on your home screen.

- The Daily Bible also have a devotions section as well as "Devotional Audio Podcasts" which can come in pretty handy in times when you need encouragement.

- Other features are pretty much similar to LiveChurch's version where you have the sharing on facebook and twitter as well as your Daily Plans, etc.

> Official Website : JoanSoft

> Read More about the application and the features

Breakfast with the Word: Deuteronomy 7:9

Deuteronomy 7:9

9 Know therefore that the Lord your God is God, the faithful God who keeps covenant and steadfast love with those who love him and keep his commandments, to a thousand generations.

Full Bible Verse: Deuteronomy 7

Thought of the day:-

Have you been letting God be God and surrendering your daily struggles to him? Have you been finding it hard to cope with the problems that you face by relying on your own strength and ability?

Lets let God be God and give it all upon Him, that He will deliver us from these struggles. All we have to do is ask!

Breakfast with the Word: Proverbs 17:17

Proverbs 17:17
17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity

Full Bible Verse: Proverbs 17

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What is the meaning of adversity?

adversity (ədˈvɜːsɪtɪ) 

— n , pl -ties
1. distress; affliction; hardship
2. an unfortunate event or incident

Thought for the day

We often refer to our best friends as brothers and sisters, is there a particular "qualification" that differentiates your friend from a "brother"? Are you being a brother or sister to the person in return?

Always treasure the friends and brothers that you have, for in the time of adversity, these are the people who stands by you

It's about the company

Here's a short post :) Lately, I've been hanging out with some people I really enjoy spending time with and it has really helped me pick myself up! Don't get me wrong, I do treasure the time hanging out with my best friends but often enough, we don't share the same interest and most of the time just end out joking each other and talking bout our daily life and how stressful it is and what not. This is not exactly a bad thing... but if you think about it, what are we really talking about? I think it's more for the support and the company that we know that our best are there for us and that we trust them to pour our hearts out and borrow their shoulders. Plus we've known each other for so long that we have run out of crap and bull to tell each other. Ha~!

Now the company that i'm referring to here is a different group of people. These are people who share some common interests or similar situations as me, I find this a really enjoyable time. For example, a few days back I met up with a LONG LOST friend as in like REALLY LONG, and though we barely know each other, we are still able to catch up over a beer and talk like as though no time has passed. Or when I went out with another friend yesterday (although it was only two of us guys, looking like losers in the middle of a packed pub/restaurant) it was really an enjoyable time and I learnt so much from that one night alone. I guess hanging out with the right company reminds you of who you are and who you can be? What do you think about this?

New Look!

CHECK IT OUT!!!!! 

What do you guys think about the new template I'm using? Was hoping to get a simpler looking page and after bout half an hour of editing this is what I got :) Looks awesome right?? I FEEL SO ACCOMPLISHED! Perhaps this will motivate me to update my blog more often! I want to thank all those who have supported me and emailed me over the past year or so. It really does mean a lot to me to know that there are people actually reading the stuff I write! 

On another note... ... ...

Dear Malaysians... you are being mean to me... please support your Malaysian blogger here! Thank you!

The Trains

One day there was a passenger who wanted to take a train, so he went to the ticket counter and bought his ticket. When he went to the terminal there were 4 trains, so he decided to check them out one by one.

When he went to the first train he saw that there were no tracks in front of the train. He thought to himself, "This train will not go anywhere as it has no direction" and so he proceeded to another terminal.

At the second terminal, he saw that the train hadn't arrive, he waited a long while before saying, "This train will probably never arrive its destination and by the time it does, I will most probably not be here anymore". Hence he went to the next terminal.

The train at the third terminal looked good and was waiting for the passengers to board, so he got on it and the train started to move, when it did start moving, the ride became very bumpy and he noticed that the train was going around in circles and was burning out very quickly. He got off when the train reached the same station it started at, when he got down, he saw the train was tired out and old.

Now the last train was the most beautiful train he had ever seen and instantly fell in love with it. He boarded the train and it was clean with well arranged seats, nice enough to host a king. The passenger comfortably sat himself in one of the sofa seat and the train began to move. The journey began smooth and the passenger was happy, but days passed and the passenger began feeling hungry and thirsty, he looked for the stewards or the driver but there were none. The train was just moving without any stops and was going through the roughest of terrains just barely making the journey a little smoother, but without the service or supplements, the passenger soon began loosing his mind and was consumed by the train ride and the journey...